Many couples come to me with the concern that they are not communicating well, or at all.
I believe there are 3 kinds of communication/intimacy: 1) Verbal sharing and listening; 2) Touch – For example, hand holding, arm in arm, “snuggling”; 3) Sexual - including making love, or any other form of sexual giving. All 3 kinds of communication are also forms of intimacy. All, at their best, involve “attunement", or the ability to tune in or read others verbal and nonverbal expressions of feelings. Intimacy/communication with attunement includes the act of giving to ones partner. This gift usually feels good to the giver and receiver. At best, it is a gift of love, without strings or expectations attached. This communication or intimacy forms the foundation upon which a relationship can be built and maintained. It enables couples to weather the harder times, or times of stress.